As an author that’s debuting next month I’m probably not doing myself any favors writing this, much less posting it, but I have some thoughts on the word community and the way it’s been used lately.
Here’s the thing: I don’t believe writing M/M makes your part of the LGTBQIA+ community, it makes you part of the M/M Romance business. And it’s been shown, time and time again, that some authors are here just for the business part. I’m not recriminating them this, people can write whatever they want and make money out of it. But I draw a line at trying to make this your own special place and throwing actual queer people out of it, when you’re making money out of telling their stories and calling yourself an ally.
Let me say it again: writing and/or reading M/M stories doesn’t make you an ally to the LGTBQIA+ community, listening to actual LGTBQIA+ people when we speak does.
Because when you’re complaining about infighting, or about this community turning on in itself, what I really hear is: I said something that hurt a group of people and now they’re telling me how I hurt them I refuse to listen to them and make them the bad guys in all of these.
But raising our voices when something hurts us is not being the bad guys, especially not when you hide behind the word ally and blame us for attacking you. Let me tell you something: I don’t think that word means what you believe it means.
So keep writing M/M stories, keep reading them, but don’t try to make us believe you’re an ally to our community, because you’ve shown your cards, and we’ve all seen them.